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Adam Heironimus's avatar

“…the social internet distorts one’s sense of how many friendships can be genuinely maintained, so one has to accept the ‘opportunity cost’ of missing out on new friendships with like-minded people.”

Social media also caused me to overemphasize the importance of finding a perfect group of like minded people. Most of the meaningful IRL interactions and relationships I’ve developed over the past few years have been with people I would have never sought out online. Reality is so much more beautiful and complex than anything I’ve experienced online.

This is an excellent piece of writing. I’m thankful that deBoer shared it.

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Justin Ross's avatar

Really nice piece.

I don't know when or why we pathologized self-discipline (maybe the postmodernists, as you mentioned), but it's utterly essential. It's a good thing.

Something people miss out on, in a culture of infinite choice, is the simple concept of growing up. Part of being an adult, or a mature citizen, is limiting your own "freedom" and disciplining yourself to be useful - both to your future self and to those around you.

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